The book goes through the various causes, in couplehood or the woman's own life, of the problem, such as stress, being pressed for time, pregnancy and childbirth, her role as a mother, her relationship to her own body, fear and pain, a lack of attention and intimacy, previous physical or mental abuse, the partners' different needs.
A book for both women and couples, it helps them find the heart of the problem, and offers them the chance of dealing with it by means of hands-on exercises.
Kirsten Ahlburg has been a psychotherapist in private practice for 15 years, specialising in couplehood and sexuality. In addition she has contributed to a number of newspapers and magazines as a letters editor and adviser on psychology and couplehood, and appeared in numerous television and radio programmes on these subjects.
Her books Entering Couplehood...and Taking Leave of It, How to Get a Loving Couplehood and When Sex Life Becomes Deadlock are a trilogy on couplehood